I will try to analyze myself, what has changed in me during these months of living abroad. Relationships began to be understood from the point of view of mutual freedom: you are free to express your request, wish, and the other person is free to agree, fulfill it or refuse without explaining the reasons. Control over my life has moved more inside the personality. That is, in a situation it is important for me that I think and feel about it, and not “what people will say”. And the last and very important thing: I began to notice the absence of sexist stereotypes in culture and in everyday life in European shit. All these educational remarks in relation to children: "What are you crying, not a man or something?" And in many cartoons, the heroine expects to be appreciated at a beauty contest (in the complete absence of internal self-esteem), that the prince will come and make her happy (instead of engaging in self-realization and becoming happy herself), that everyone should tell her how to behave , but she herself is helpless, dependent and not self-sufficient. Previously, I did not notice this at all.
Everyone knows that personality traits, such as the degree of anxiety or the balance of extraversion / introversion, can change with a change in place of residence. Surely many have noticed that northerners and southerners tend to be more neurotic than people from western Europe, while people in the southeastern side of Europe tend to be more pleasant and gentle. The degree of influence of a place on a person may depend on what motivates a person when moving. Also, do not forget that our well-being largely depends on the climate of the area in which we live. A person who does not like the cold is moving in the northern regions, and vice versa, someone who cannot stand the heat will be unhappy in the south. Environmental factors really play a huge role in personality formation. And even the weather can change you a lot. As a rule, people are most comfortable with neutral temperatures. For example, a pleasant spring can make you happy and even improve your memory. But the unbearable summer heat is more likely to make you angry and aggressive.
In my experience, no matter how hard you try to think positively and change your life for the better, if you and your place do not suit each other, then you have to leave. Living in an unloved place is like being with an unloved person: everything will be annoying, even small things. But if you are lucky enough to get to your place, then nothing else will really matter. Friends will be there, problems will be solved, and not a very comfortable climate - well, everyone has their own shortcomings.